Marrying Software Girl Finding perfect Match marriage india

Maarriage  by defnition is a social union or legal contract between people that creates kinship. The definition of marriage varies according to different cultures, but is usually an institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually intimate and sexual, are acknowledged. Such a union is often formalized via a wedding ceremony. Many cultures limit marriage to two persons of the opposite sex, but some allow forms of polygamous marriage, and some recognize same-sex marriage. In some conservative cultures, marriage is recommended or compulsory before pursuing any sexual activity.

Big question is how to get perfect match.
Software engineers usually prefer partner from same stream, But is that the only criteria to find your soul mate?

Few things to check before commitment:

• Set the right expectations before engagement.
• Discuss your likes and dislikes, See if they match.
• If there is no match.. Just move on.
• Nobody is perfect, 20% mismatch is fine.you can compromise.
• This is lifelong relationship, Be wise to decide on perfect match.Here are pros and cons
• Keep talking, Best way to get know each other.
• Check how well she can mingle with parents, Same other way as well. If there are conflicts both have to forget the families and leave alone if rest matches.

Pros:

•  Double income suits the metro lifestyle.
•  Can afford high end property, investments.
•  Can contribute some part of sal to parents if needed (Only is spouse allows )
•  Can hire maid for all household work.

Cons:

•  Ego issues, as spouse is also working she may not agree with you all the time. leading to conflicts.
•  No home food all the time, Have to depend on maid everyday.
•  If maid is on leave, Home is not sweet home.
•  Not much attention to kids as both are busy.
•  Life is hectic, life is moving fast, No time for each other to understand the concerns.

If  you are lucky you may get sati savitri who has all the attribute of
Karyeshu Dasi, Karaneshu Manthri; Bhojeshu Mata, Shayaneshu Rambha, Roopeshu lakshmi, Kshamayeshu Dharitri, Shat dharmayukta, Kuladharma Pathni’

Most of these qualities of a good wife are already inbuilt in a woman and the rest can be developed.

Here are some of the Qualities a man looks in his wife.

•  Be pleasant: It is said that ‘we need to treat others the way we want ourselves to be treated’. Never be rude to our husband, family and friends. Be warm, kind, positive, understanding and friendly. Work to be pleasant toward your husband. Don’t be one of those people who make everyone around feel bad just because they have had a hard day. Welcome your husband with a smile when he comes home instead of a sour face. A good wife honors her hubby by keeping a pleasant tone in her voice, a happy smile on her face and a neat and clean appearance. Listen to him talk about his day especially if it was a difficult one. If you don’t like how you partner treats you, take a minute to notice how you treat your partner and correct your behavior.
•  Treat your Husband with Respect: If you expect respect from others we need to treat others with respect too. Haven’t we all heard ‘Give respect and take respect’? Respect can be reflected in the way one talks and behaves. Always speak in a loving way and refrain from speaking in a harsh manner. A good wife respects her hubby and she never chooses to belittle strike, humiliate or otherwise harm him in private nor in public. It is better to watch what you say and think before speaking as it is not possible to take back the words once they are said. A good wife will treat her man with respect in front of others and at home.
• Be Romanti: This plays a major role developing relationship.
• Understand his expectations and nurture him for strong bonding.
•  Don not nag for every issue.
• Appreciate him for whatever good things he has done for the family.
• Plan outings if he is busy at work.
• Mother is the first teacher for kids. Take fullcare of their feelings.
• Dont be rude and arrogant even if he is wrong. Let him know in calm manner.

Hope it helps to find right match.
Happy married life!!!!